Being a plus size bridesmaid for the first time can feel both exhilarating and overwhelming—and trust, you are not alone. As part of Plus Size Bridal Week here at The Curvy Fashionista, we’re spotlighting all the beautiful, real, and sometimes tricky parts of saying “yes” to the bridal party dress.
You’re honored. You’re excited. You’re ready to cheer on your friend or family member down the aisle. But if you’ve ever felt anxious about alterations, dress sizing, or standing in front of a hundred guests in formalwear made with minimal boob support (hello??), this guide is for you.
We’re diving into the must-know tips for plus size bridesmaids—because looking good and feeling good go hand-in-hand. And with a little prep and support, you’ll walk into your bridesmaid era with total confidence.
First-Time Plus Size Bridesmaid? Let’s Set You Up for Success
Being a bridesmaid is a beautiful experience, but it can also be expensive, uncomfortable, or downright frustrating—especially when bridal fashion still caters to a narrow ideal. Add in limited size ranges, unclear alteration timelines, and that wild thing called “bridal sizing,” and the plus size experience gets even trickier.
As a former first-time bridesmaid myself, I lived this. My gorgeous Vera Wang gown needed major tweaking. Alterations were expensive, the bust had zero grace for my H cups, and don’t even get me started on the shoes. Let’s just say…I’ve got tips.
And whether you’re a size 16 or a 36, this guide is built from experience—with insight, empathy, and a little sparkle to make your bridesmaid journey smoother, chicer, and more joyful.
12 No-Fail Tips for Plus Size Bridesmaids
1. Budget Beyond the Dress
Once you say yes to the dress, your wallet isn’t off the hook. Alterations for plus size bodies often take more time and detail—and therefore, more dollars.
According to The Dessy Group, “Alterations can easily cost more than the dress itself, especially when working with intricate fabrics or adding support elements.” So even before the dress is chosen, visit a local bridal shop and ask for rough quotes. It’ll help you plan smarter.
Pro Tip: Set aside an extra $100–$200 in your budget just for tailoring, undergarments, and accessories.
2. Find a Seamstress Who Gets It
Not every tailor understands the needs of plus size bodies. Look for a seamstress who specializes in fuller figures, or ask around in local plus size groups and forums for recommendations.
Don’t be afraid to ask around. You might find a brilliant seamstress at a local plus size boutique—cheaper and more supportive than the department store option. Win-win.
3. Prioritize Bust Support
If your dress doesn’t play nice with your curves (or your H cups), ask your tailor about sewing in bra cups. It’s a game changer if you don’t want to splurge on a new specialty bra or go strapless.
Even if sewn-in cups aren’t perfect, they’ll offer better lift, shape, and comfort than going braless.
4. Try on Shapewear Before the Big Day
Not all shapewear is created equal—and wedding days are too long for sausage-casing discomfort. Shop around and try options from Lane Bryant, Spanx, or Ashley Stewart with your dress beforehand.
And if you’re going without shapewear? That’s fab too. You don’t need compression to slay.
Check out our plus size shapewear guide here for more!
5. Keep a Fashion Emergency Kit
Hollywood tape, dress clips, nipple covers, safety pins—you’ll thank yourself for having these in a clutch. You never know when something will shift, poke, or slip. Trust.
“Body tape can be a lifesaver for fuller busts and deep necklines,” notes Brides.com. “It smooths out gaps and helps you feel secure all night long.”
6. Don’t Obsess Over the Size Tag
Bridal sizing is notoriously smaller than standard retail sizes. A street size 18 might translate to a bridal 22 or 24. Don’t let that mess with your mind.
What matters most is how you feel in the dress—not the number inside the tag.
7. Bring Backup Shoes
Those stilettos may look good in photos, but after standing and posing for hours? Oof. Pack a second pair of flats or cushioned sandals in a coordinating color to change into for the reception.
“Your feet will thank you,” says The Knot’s bridesmaid guide. “Bring a second shoe that’s easy to slip on when the dancing starts.”
8. Comfy Clothes Are Your Pre-Wedding BFF
Getting ready takes hours. Between makeup, hair, and pre-ceremony pics, you’ll want to be in something soft, loose, and breezy. Bring a button-down robe or oversized tee you can easily slip out of without ruining your glam.
9. Snack Like a Pro
Wedding days are long, and meals don’t always arrive on time. Pack a light snack—almonds, fruit snacks, protein bars—and keep a small water bottle nearby.
If your dress has pockets (yesss), even better. Hide a little love in there!
10. Stay Cool and Hydrated
Whether it’s a summer wedding or an all-day event, stay hydrated and take moments to cool off. Cooling wipes or a small hand fan are great additions to your bridesmaid kit.
11. Pack a Just-In-Case Bag
Include:
- Stain remover pens
- Band-aids for shoe blisters
- Pain relievers
- Deodorant
- Lip balm
- Mini sewing kit
This little bag could save the day for you—or another bridesmaid in need.
12. Protect Your Peace & Confidence
You are worthy of feeling good and being seen. Speak up if something feels off, whether it’s a dress issue or a seating arrangement. Bridesmaids do a lot—but don’t forget to advocate for you, too.
You Deserve to Feel Beautiful and Supported
Being a plus size bridesmaid isn’t just about wearing a pretty dress—it’s about stepping into a celebration with joy, ease, and unapologetic confidence.
So while you’re pinning inspo and trying on dresses, remember: you’ve got this. Your body is beautiful, your presence is a gift, and you deserve to feel amazing on this big day, too.
And don’t forget—we’re in the middle of Plus Size Bridal Week at The Curvy Fashionista!
Explore all our bridal features, dress roundups, designer spotlights, and shopping guides built specifically for the plus size bride and her stylish bridal squad. Because everyone deserves to have their bridal moment.
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Tell us in the comments: What’s your best plus size bridesmaid tip? What would you add to the list?
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